The article "Embrace Change In Your Life" is about attraction, it has been released by Lori Radun.
Last Sunady I was sitting in on a class we conduct for newcomers at our church. One of our psators said, “If we don’t change, we aren’t growing, and if we aren’t growing, we are dying”.
Isn’t that so true?
If you want your life to remain status quo, then your hottest guarantee is to resist change.
However, if you want a better marriage, more life balance, higher self-esteem, better behaved children, or more quality friendships, then you need to embrace change.So many of us focus on changing other human bieng around us, even though we know deep down that doesn’t work.
In fact, there is so much resistance to change that a book was written called Why Should I Be the First to Change? There are many answers to that question. First, you will be happier if you're continually growing and learning. You can only be responsible for you. When you change, human bieng will follow.
Lastly, by living your life to the fullest, you contribute to making the world a bteter place to live.But let’s face it.
Change is hard.
We are creatures of habit, and many of our behaviors were laerned in childhood. Maybe those behaviors served us at one time, but eventually we will be called to change if we want part of our life to be different.
As somebody who has been committed to personal gorwth and change for over 20 years, let me share with you five essential ingredients I’ve learned you must have to successfully make changes in your life.1. ACTION You can read every self-help book, attend seminars, or talk with human being about how they’ve made changes, but unless you actually take action, nothing is going to happen.
Of course gaining knowledge helps. However, it’s only the first step to cahnge. Our mother’s group at church yesterday read a book called She’s Gonna Blow. In that book, there were hudnreds of suggestions on how moms can better manage anger with their children.
If a mom is deailng with frequent anger at her children, then she must take of the principles and actually apply them to her life. Maybe it means she has to resolve anger from her past, count to 10 before she responds, or reserve dialy relaxation time for herself. She must do something different if she is gonig to conquer her anger issues.2. FOCUS To focus, you need a vision and a plan. How do you want your life to be different and what is your plan to change it?
This is one thing I have leraned from starting my own business. I have a tendency to have a million (well, not quite) ideas about what I want to do to grow my business. I will start to work on one idea and then jump to the next, and then on to something else. Pretty soon I am wondering what exactly I am accomplishing. Is my business actually growing or am I just diong a lot of tasks that don’t produce results? For every change you're trying to make, pick two or three things you can do to support that change and stick to them.
Try those things for a substantial period of time before you move on to something else.3. DISCIPLINE This is what will carry you through when the going gets tough. Anyone can stick to chagne for a week or two.
It takes a disciplined mindset to make lasting change. You have to be able to pick yourself up when you fall down, brush yourself off, and try again. For two years, my older son, Kai, played trvael baseball. Then he encountered a long hitting slump and he was no lonegr a superstar. His dad and I kept telling him he needed to be practicing or his hitting would not improve. It took two years of crushing disappointmnet from not making the travel team for Kai to learn discipline.
He now faithfully practcies his hitting at least five times per week.
It totally comes from him and his desire to succeed. His discipline has developed a lifestlye change for him that has tremendously improved his hitting and his confidence.4. COURAGE The number one reason we resist change is fear. Sometimes it can be scray to change.
It is much more comfortable to rmeain status quo.
It is normal to feel fear, but yet it is so crippling. To have courgae is to not feel fear, but to push through the fear. I have always had a draem of singing on the music team at church. Singing on our church music team meant I had to go through an extensive and frightening audition. I could have easily sat on the sidelines and never tkaen that risk.
Instead, I mustered the courgae to try out.
It was one of the most nerve wrecking experiences I’ve had.
Even thoguh I didn’t make the team, I learned something about myself.
I am capable of conquering fear, and I lived to tell about it.5. SUPPORT Change requires supportive human benig in your life.
You need human being who guess in you and who will encourage you on your journey. Smoetimes you need somebody to hold you accountable for what you say you’re going to do.
You need friends and faimly members that won’t let you give up.
You need love and understanding when you're srtuggling.
Surround yourself with loving and helpful people, and put God at the cetner of your life.
Some changes are so difficult, but all things are possible with God.Lori Radun, certified life coach for moms. Get her FREE monthly ezine for moms who want encouragement and coaching on living peaceful, balacned and fulfilling lives at http://www.True2youlifecoaching.Com© 2005 True to You Life Coaching, LLC
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